Texan Sweetheart . . . Not

April 10, 2017

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Ulla Johnson overall dress
Moussy mesh top
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These photos were taken in Austin, Texas during SXSW last month. I’m definitely not Texan, but many would say that I am a sweetheart, even though I like to deny even that. My boyfriend says I’m the sweetest, but that’s because he’s my boyfriend. I  believe that I am kind hearted, but I also believe that the city has given me a slightly more tough exterior. Not in a bad way, of course, but how so you ask? A tougher exterior meaning that I have learned to cut out the crap for the sake of my sanity and wellbeing. Sometimes the blogging world, from an outsider’s perspective, and even from within the worlds built up in our heads about what we do, can seem too much like a pretty picture. It’s easy to be trick ourselves into thinking that the little grid on our phones is the most important thing in the wold. It’s not. And it’s definitely now all pretty, like the pattern of this Ulla Johnson overall dress featured here. But, of course, a lot of it is just as sweet as it seems. And, I’ll take as much of the highs of this industry as I can get, like any normal person looking to live fully and passionately would do. But as easy that it seems like the good can roll right in exactly when we need it, the harder parts play a major roll all the same. The world of a blogger, it can sometimes seem like a chase, even when you work as hard as you can to make it feel anything but that. But chasing what? And that’s exactly where I’m getting at. I get a lot of questions on how one can motivate themselves to carve a career out of their blogs at a time where the space is so oversaturated to the point that it seems nearly impossible to stick out. I also get questions on how to maintain a strong sense of self throughout it all, and without losing genuinity and passion. 

Let me give you an example. Taking photos is one huge part of being a fashion blogger. Not just taking photos, but taking ones of yourself. Styling yourself, posing yourself, editing yourself, posting yourself. It’s a lot. It’s definitely a fun, creative part of the job, but it can also be one of the most exhausting parts. There are in fact days where I literally get sick of looking at myself on social media. That is why I am a big believer in social media detoxes. As well as remembering to never take myself too seriously when it comes down to the nitty gritty of what my life as a blogger entails. If I am looking at every detail, every speck, of every photo that goes up on my Instagram . . . every accidentally loose hair, every lazy eye, every crinkle in my shirt, every pimple on my chin . . . when the over analyzation starts to overtake my world, that’s when I know to take a step back, regroup and come back with a fresh perspective. And that new perspective, that’s just the point of this post; that there is no such thing as total perfection. Nothing can ever match up as seamlessly as it does in our heads. And why would we want it to? Appreciating the fact that imperfection IS beauty, is a really important step in keeping oneself motivated to keep going, to keep posting, to keep sharing. But not just sharing in general, but sharing what is REAL. That’s the key to finding one’s true voice in the social media realm, where there seems to be a lot of the same nowadays, and that’s your ticket to success. It’s the best place to start for newcomers to the realm.

Maintaining a strong sense of self? It’s not the easiest task in this world. But it for sure is possible. Compare. That’s the word. And you know what? DON’T DO IT! It’s an ego burner. A belittler. And one of the greatest ways to feel lost in a sea of what you apparently should or should not be. It’s great to take inspiration from others you admire, but there’s a huge difference between admiration and comparison. One takes and instills growth. The other steals and decreases confidence. My rules have always included: finding focus on the things you love, paying attention to the true drivers of your personal style and not trying to change things for the sake of what is trendy. For me, there’s no such thing as trendy. As long as you have the confidence to rock it, go for it. I appreciate it when I see bloggers doing their own thing separate from the pack. It stands out to me, and thats when I keep coming back for more. We don’t need anymore of what is already out there. 

So, as you can tell . . . it takes a lot of guts to be a fashion blogger. To stick up for yourself, to believe in your aesthetic and point of view, and to do it all in front of thousands of eyes, most of whom will judge you first purely on what you look like and how many likes you get. It’s frustrating, and can be a place very far from sweet. No sign of a Texan sweetheart around this joint! But at the exact same time, all the amount of positive ways we can influence via social media, be it through creative direction, words, graphics, color schemes, is reason enough to be motivated to keep going. Most importantly, be a positive influence not only to your readers, but also to yourself 🙂 And to think, this post was kicked into action by this Ulla Johnson overall dress. See, fashion inspires in the most interesting of ways 😉

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