Spring starts in a few days, but I’m already ready. Our weekend getaway to Miami was the best early start to the new season. And for some reason, the width of my pant legs just keep growing and growing as the weather gets closer to warmer and warmer. Hehe.
Vintage blazer H&M tee AG jeans
Vintage belt AGL boots
With social media surrounding us on all sides, it’s hard not to keep from comparing oneself to an endless stream of what’s trending and what’s not. And sometimes (maybe a lot of times) we find ourselves sacrificing our individualities for the sake of fitting into what is “cool” or “in.” Or maybe we find ourselves purposefully trying to stick out just to be original. But then we stop and question . . . well, is that even being original at all? Especially when the act is made consciously? OMG, so many questions! Originality in today’s day and age, when millions of people are using the same platforms to show off their “individualities,” it seems to have taken on a different definition than it used to. And so we ask, is it even possible to be original at all? But wait, another question . . . are we overthinking the whole thing just by raising these questions in the first place?
How about this. Let’s stop asking ourselves so many questions, and just do what we feel. Even though that’s much harder than we think, and especially with people and magazine/digital headlines telling us and showing us all the 100 ways to wear or 250 ways not to wear something on a basically 24/7 basis. How do we stay honest to ourselves, while being open to thinking outside of our own boxes, but at the same time without having to sacrifice our individualities in the process? Answer: Disregard the headlines and popular Instagram photos as the one and only guidelines to your personal style and perspective on life. Don’t post a photo of you and your best friend holding hands in front of a pink sanded beach looking dreamily out into the distance just because that’s what’s trending on social media. Remember that the entire goal is to NOT be a copy cat for the sake of extra likes. But don’t flat out stop looking at other’s for guidance or inspiration in places that we feel we are lacking or in need a little bit more emphasis or experimentation. Isn’t that the whole entire point of what we do as influencers? We are influencing at the same time that we are being influenced. Putting out into the world what is our own, and taking in a version of something that is soon to become a subtly different version of its original form. This process of passing along information and inspiration is the most magical part of it all. The personal twists we put on the idea already out there makes fashion, well, FASHION. We make fashion special by contributing to the storytelling, and the fact that as individuals we are all important parts to the grander story of what drives our outfit choices. That the ones after us will look back on us to be inspired by again and again. Just at the same time we look forward at them currently, recycling our own old ideas and their new ones together in a way that is indescribably our own. That right there, is the whole point.
This old wool plaid blazer, was taking out from my closet after about a year of being on sleep mode, for the one and only reason that I felt like my college semi-punk days needed a little reliving. Many of my clothing choices are based on nostalgic factors. Little hints here and there act as reminders of where I started from. And I take comfort in these things.
It’s supposed to snow here in NYC tomorrow, so I thought I’d hit you all up with something on a more tropical sort of level. The front yard of our Airbnb in Tulum was inspiring to the max, full of lush green and tall bamboo. A little plunge pool that kept calling our names. An environment made for the professional lounger I must say. This lingerie-esque bodysuit also seemed fitting for an afternoon cat nap by the pool. My most extravagant of kimonos in tones of gold and black felt right, as well. In a place with a pace as casual as that of Tulum, it stills seemed right to throw on something that sparkles and shines. It’s just another form of TLC when I’m on a vacation.
This is pretty much my last post from Tulum. Another quick warm-weathered trip is coming up next weekend! Guess where? It involves a lot of music 🙂
Since day one, I’ve always ran this blog with a purpose. Many purposes as a matter of fact. One of them was to find a way to allow my creativity to run its course in the best way that it could. Another was to help me find focus in terms of my strengths (and the areas that I wanted to make even stronger) in styling, writing and creative direction. But what I can sometimes say that I love even more than creating is sharing . . . to inspire others . . . to bond over similar ideas, motivations and thought processes. What I found through blogging was a path towards finding my uniqueness and my originality. These were the two most important things that I learned that I should never try to erase for the sake of fitting in on this so-called digital realm. As a matter of fact, these were the exact things that helped me stick out. It’s funny, because on the day-to-day, we never really think about the things that set us a part. We spend so much time just trying to get our jobs done, we forget why the individual aspect of what we do is so important. Why sometimes people can be said to have a calling to do what they do, because for them nothing else makes sense. And they don’t even have to know exactly why that is true. That doing what we do, and why we do it, can be the most special thing of all. And these special sort of things are meant to be shared, on different levels of course (some more personal than others), but shared nonetheless because someway, somehow, it will make a difference for somewhere out there. Even if that is just one person.
We just came out of a publicized (and very, very digital) celebration of International Women’s Day. But of course, every single day, and especially so in the past few years, has continuously felt as special as yesterday did. In a way, each day kept leading up to the next one in the most powerful way. Over and over again. As I grew older, my realization of my strengths and emotions grew stronger. Everyday I wanted more. I expected more out of myself. And with this sort of in-tune with oneself perspective, there is no real end goal. The process is endless and relentless. It’s a continuous sort of growth that never stops. Much like the growth of support amongst the women in this world who are coming forward strong and speaking loud and clear. We as woman know what we want and the way to get what we want. It’s hard not to listen to us for we are so great in numbers and our actions speak tenfold. And we never can stop even when what we say or do seems to go in one ear and out the other of the patriarchy that we see ourselves as equals of (even if they don’t make us feel that way most of the time). We’ll show them the ways we are that they don’t make us feel, and we’ll show them that we are worth every damn cent put into us. And we’ll never stop doing what we love, even when people make it harder for us to do so every single day.
So now I just want to get to what I originally wanted to say about setting sights with a purpose. To spread love and support and creativity on this online realm is one of the most important things to me right now. To surround myself with women of passion even if I just admire them from afar, my sister, my mother, thoughtful and likeminded women I meet unexpectedly, the few fellow bloggers who have become some of my best friends even from across the world, the one’s who were inspired to reach for their dreams by visiting my site and spreading their vision in their own ways. These are the kinds of women in our lives we should be thinking about and supporting and letting them know how we feel. We as women need to stop comparing each other and scrutinizing to the point where walls are built up between us. These kind of walls just make us weaker. Instead how about we create a unified wall together? The Women’s Marches are a perfect example of that. Not how about we take that mindset and infuse it into our daily, personal relationships? How much we drive each other positively is so important to the future of our success, not just as individuals, but as a part of the human race. Keep note on the daily, even on days that seem to not be going exactly as planned, to never give up on pursuing life thoughtfully, substantially, passionately and genuinely. And that goes for every relationship. Cutting out the bad to make room for all the good. Cheers to all the women, and especially my sister Natalie who sticks with me even on the most tough and annoying of days, who remind me to keep my head up and my back straight.